Wonder Woman in a Cardigan: The Librarian Who Changed My Life

“When I was homeless, having my own space was hugely important to me. I didn’t have my own bed, much less my own room, so having a spot, even one in a public place, that was “mine”, was a comfort. I felt a sense of ownership and with it, a sense of belonging.”

“Homeless children know that their parents have many priorities – jobs, health, finding shelter, so feeling like the librarian’s only priority was magical to me.”

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When I was five years old my father left his job as the manager of a restaurant in Denver. As many families do when facing financial instability, my parents packed us up and moved to Iowa to be closer to family and a job for my Dad. For the next six months we relied on relatives and friends for shelter. It was a difficult time, but I didn’t even realize until adulthood, how serious my family’s situation had been. For me that part of my childhood was fondly known as “the year we lived at the library.” The library was my family’s stable home that year. We went almost every day; we read, we did homework, we played for hours. For me, during this time, any trauma of homelessness was completely overshadowed by my undying affection and loyalty to the children’s librarian, Mrs. S.

I would climb the stairs to the children’s department every day and make a beeline to her desk. Mrs. S would lead me through the stacks, looking for the perfect book, armed with a list of suggestions she’d thought of since my last visit. This created the impression on me that when I wasn’t at the library she still spent all her time thinking about me.

After we found a book she would sit with me, right on the floor between the shelves and listen to me prattle on about all my thoughts. These little moments with a woman whose full name I didn’t even know, these are what I remember from that year. She made the library fun, safe, and exciting. To me she was Wonder Woman in a cardigan.             

Eventually my family got back on their feet. We found a house and moved to Wisconsin. Years later, I became a librarian and spent my days trying to provide that same welcoming haven to the children in my community that Mrs. S had provided for me.

Deb and Lydia

After years of searching, with the aid of This American Life, I found her. I had assumed my memory had been playing tricks on me, that there couldn’t possibly be a librarian with that much patience and kindness — a person who could make you feel at home in a public space. But now I can tell you — with the certainty of an adult perspective — that she really is just that magical. I sat in Deb Stevenson’s office and we held hands and cried with each other after not seeing each other for 20 years.

So how can one be the Deb Stephenson in someone’s life?  I’m by no means an expert, but Deb and I have come up with five tips for finding the best ways for libraries and librarians to be a safe haven for disenfranchised children.

1.    Have special spots

When I was homeless, having my own space was hugely important to me. I didn’t have my own bed, much less my own room, so having a spot, even one in a public place, that was “mine”, was a comfort. I felt a sense of ownership and with it, a sense of belonging. Encouraging children to have their own special spots in the library can foster this same sense of security. I love when children bring guests to the library, and saunter in with the confident “lemme show you my crib” vibe. In this situation, THEY are the expert. The library has, in a way, become their home.

2.              Greeting by name

Obviously any teachers reading this would know each of their students’ names, but in the library world where we see an entire community of children it can be really hard to match names and faces. This is something I struggle with personally but my trick is to encourage the kids to give me a nickname to call them- their special library name

3.              Remove Barriers

When I was little it cost 50 cents to order an interlibrary loan at that library, and nowadays, it’s $3.00. Disadvantaged children don’t have that money available to them. It’s the same with library fines. Most children have no control over when they get to visit the library. So fining them for not returning items on time is a punishment they don’t deserve and couldn’t have avoided. I’m proud that the library I work at recently cleared all fines and fees for our patrons.

4.               Leave the safety of your desk

Deb and I have spoken a lot about what made our relationship so special. At that time, in her department her responsibilities were 1) storytime and 2) the kids. That was it. If she wasn’t doing storytime she was out on the floor, with us.

5.              Give the illusion that you have all the time in the world

Deb never made me feel rushed or like she didn’t have time for me. She let me be as picky as I wanted when we were picking out books. The way I’ve tried to implement this in my library is being very clear to the kids that they can say no to a book. Kids often feel a pressure to just say yes to whatever they’re given by an adult but I want the kids to know their thoughts and opinions are valuable to me, so they don’t have to check out the book just because I suggested it. Deb always made me feel as if the most important thing to her was that I found the perfect book, she had no other priorities and nothing else she needed to do. Homeless children know that their parents have many priorities – jobs, health, finding shelter, so feeling like the librarian’s only priority was magical to me.

In an effort to thank Deb, and the library that changed my life, I told my story in DEAR LIBRARIAN, available for purchase now. Do you have a Deb in your life? Someone who inspired you with their kindness and empathy and set you on the right path? If you can, reach out and thank them, it can be life changing.

Lydia M. Sigwarth is an author and children’s librarian living in Platteville, Wisconsin with her fluffy puppy Agatha. Her absolute favorite thing to do is talk books with budding bookworms. Dear Librarian is her debut picture book. You can find her online @LibraryLydia.


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14 thoughts on “Wonder Woman in a Cardigan: The Librarian Who Changed My Life

  1. What a beautiful story to share, and it made me think harder about where children might find safe spaces and important allies. I’m sending this piece to my daughter who might study library science in her future. Although, we have to acknowledge that the job nowadays is not that simple. But I still hope that librarians can find ways to make children FEEL as if they have time to listen and to recommend books just for them.


  2. Such a touching story! Wish there was a ‘Deb’ in all libraries. As an EAL teacher, I would love my language learners to find succour and warmth in the library as they discover the magical world of books.


  3. What a BEAUTIFUL story– it moved me to tears. Thank you so much for sharing it with us, and for offering concrete suggestions to make all libraries welcoming spaces.


  4. What a beautiful story! As a kid I dreamt of what it could be like if I spent my days at the library, but my opportunities were limited.
    Today librarians continue to be essential.

    Thank you for writing Dear Librarian and for sharing your story.


  5. I have always considered the library my home away from home. When the doors opened after a lengthy period due to COVID, I wrote about the bodily sensation I experienced as I wandered the stacks after a long absence. It’s as if the library missed me too. This book is a beautiful tribute to the role the library and librarians play in our lives from a perspective I have never considered. I like the tips at the end.


  6. What a heart warming story and a powerful reminder about how much difference one person can make in the life of a child. Libraries and librarians were also a huge source of comfort in my childhood. I’m so glad that Deb and Lydia were reunited. Thanks for sharing this story and for the opportunity to win a copy of “Dear Librarian.”


  7. Just what I needed this morning. I am starting out on a post retirement postion as a part time literacy coach after being a principal for 34 years! Wondering what I have to offer to the teachers I will be working with. I want to help them change chidren’s lives.


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