Two things changed the way I spoke to children: attending Peter Johnston’s Calendar Days through the Teachers College Reading and Writing Project and participating in the week-long Responsive Classroom I training. Both Johnston and Responsive Classroom made me realize I could use language to empower my students, praise specifically, and provide genuine feedback.
“Naming What Children Can Do” appears in the Summer 2013 issue of the Responsive Classroom Newsletter. The article deals with the importance of reinforcing language in the classroom. It’s a great place to help you think about the kind of language you use. For instance, do you praise kids in a way that emphasizes your personal approval or do you praise them for behaviors you value and want to reinforce? It’ll get you thinking about the way you use language to celebrate with children vs. the ways you use language to instruct and foster change. (Click here to read examples of reinforcing language.)
Now that I’m a parent, I try to praise my daughter for what she’s doing and positive behaviors I want to see repeated. I recently read an article, “10 Things to Stop Saying to Your Kids (and What to Say Instead)”, that reminded me I still have work to do when it comes to empowering my daughter through language. I had been telling her “great job” when she pronounced a word clearly. After reading the article, I started saying, “I understood what you said because you spoke clearly.” Now she knows what she did well so she can replicate it again. And quite frankly, I think she was more proud of herself when I used specific praise.
It takes courage to change the way you speak to students. Once I realized telling my students “I’m proud of you” would make them dependent on my praise, I began saying, “You should be proud of yourself.” It took me an entire year to transform from a teacher who said things like, “I like the way you’re sitting on the rug,” to a teacher who stated, “I notice everyone came prepared with their notebooks and is ready to begin the minilesson.”
Finally, if transforming your language is a goal you have for the upcoming school year, put Choice Words by Peter H. Johnston on your summer reading list.